So, the original topic for this week was “significant other.” And well, given my current personal life, I decided to change it a bit and make it about a special person in my life. I think that in this instance, this person knows more about me than any significant other ever has. This special person in my life deserves a title all her own, and ‘best friend’ just doesn’t do her justice.
This person is my Heather. This woman is my ‘ride or die’ person in my life. She’s walked through the fires of hell more times than anyone ever should have to. With that though, she’s come out refined, more beautiful, and more amazing than anyone I’ve known other than my own momma. I’m so grateful that she’s chosen to have me in her life, and I love her to pieces.
My world has changed a million times in my lifetime. Through my childhood, how I viewed things evolved as I grew up and learned. My twenties taught me life, love, loss, and rebuilding. In my thirties I learned how to survive the death of my son. Heather… she’s taught me so many things that these decades of my life could never have taught me.
Two Roads Converged
Everyone has that special person in your life, and a name popped in your head as soon as you read that. When I think of Heather, I don’t know that I can ever pick enough words that describe what she means to me, and to my life. From the first day we met, there was a connection that I don’t know if either of us can truly describe it. We’ve both had loss. Both of us have loved, lived, made stupid decisions, and of course some smart ones. All of those things led us to where we are, and I’m thankful my life led me to her.
I wonder about where I’ve been, but then I look at where I would be without her. Heather keeps me sane, focused, grounded, and reminds me it’s okay to feel. She also holds me accountable for my actions, words, and thoughts. If I say I’m going to do something, I better do it. When I talk about how I feel, she holds me accountable for owning my emotions. If I say that I want to work towards something, she encourages me to keep going until I achieve it.
To be, or not to be…
Heather knows me, can read me like an open book. Which for some might be scary, but when it comes to her, it isn’t. She knows by the sound of my voice when I say “Hello” on the phone if I’m in pain, just waking up, sleepy, irritated, and the list goes on. There are times I swear that this woman has a crystal ball and she can tell automatically who or what is irritating me or making me happy.
My life wouldn’t be the same without her, and truth be told, I’d be a wreck. Heather is a beautiful tornado of color, wrapped in a hurricane of glitter, followed by a blizzard of wisdom. She brings all these things to your door, shares with you what you need, and takes with her nothing but a hug, and usually a cup of coffee. This woman’s soul is every color of the rainbow, and probably a few you didn’t know existed, and that soul has seen some things. That’s what gives her an edge, but also a softness unlike anyone I know.
Thanks is never enough
By the time you read this, I’m sure that there will be many others that have also read it. So, the secret is out, you’re amazing. I can’t imagine this world without you, but I know that tomorrow is never guaranteed. So, today, and every day, I need you to know that you mean the world to me. People are strange, but today, my dear bestie, we are going to conquer the world.
The answer is still “no” however to the helicopter and tank questions, but remember, what I’ve got, is all yours. I thank the moon and stars for guiding us together all because of a glittery, sweary piece of art work.
I love your face, don’t let this world ever change you… YOU change the world.
This week, the challenge will be to let that special person (or significant other) in your life that they are important to you. Let them know that you are grateful for their presence in your world. If we don’t tell them, or at the very least show them, they will never know. That is on us to tell these people.
As always, we would love to hear from you. If there is something you’d like to tell us, share with us, or even ask; please feel free to comment below or you can contact us. Own your journey, and we will catch you on the flip side.